La settimana scorsa dovevo fare un discorso a Vicenza, a un evento di public speaking. Era il mio primo discorso interamente in inglese, quindi ero un po’ preoccupato di non riuscire a fare un buon lavoro.
A questo punto ho deciso di attivare i miei superpoteri speciali di autocrescita. Ho meditato per qualche minuto, mi sono preparato una bella centrifuga, e mi sono messo davanti al computer. Non avevo preparato niente. Mi sono semplicemente messo a scrivere quello che mi veniva in mente, come mi veniva al momento, senza pensare troppo al risultato finale. Dopo poco più di mezz’ora, quando sono arrivato alla fine e ho scritto le ultime parole, mi sono reso conto di avere scritto un ottimo discorso con un’ottima conclusione. È stato un po’ come guardarlo materializzarsi automaticamente, e con l’aiuto delle mie dita, sullo schermo del mio computer.
A quel punto sapevo che mi piaceva molto, ma che avrei dovuto anche impararlo a memoria, una cosa che odio e che non faccio mai. Insomma, una buona occasione per mettersi alla prova. Ho tirato fuori il mio registratore tascabile, ho registrato l’intero discorso su un mp3, l’ho caricato sul mio smartphone e sono andato al parco a fare una corsetta, ripetendolo ad alta voce assieme all’audio. Ho cercato su Internet qualche consiglio per imparare le cose a memoria (a quanto pare è meglio cominciare dal finale e tornare indietro), mi sono messo a studiarlo, ed entro la sera del giorno dopo avevo finito. Discorso pronto.
Dovevo solo rifinire gli ultimi dettagli e registrarlo di nuovo.
L’esecuzione è andata alla grande, ed essendo un discorso di prova per una gara di valutazioni, dopo averlo fatto ho ricevuto ben 5 recensioni orali diverse, che mi hanno aiutato molto a capire meglio i miei punti deboli e i miei punti di forza.
Di seguito ti lascio il video dello speech con il testo originale, per aiutarti a seguirlo meglio.
A proposito, hai visto che inglese? 😀 Se vuoi migliorare il tuo inglese perché non provi il metodo che ho usato io per diventare sempre più bravo? Lo trovi spiegato nel dettaglio nel mio ebook. In alternativa puoi usare questo video per applicare la tecnica dello shadowing, efficacissima per migliorare la tua capacità di conversazione in qualsiasi lingua.
E mi raccomando, sii il tuo primo follower! 😉
Who is your first follower?
Some people say that in order to be happy, healthy and succesful, you have to think the right thoughts. You have to understand the right concepts about how to control yourself and other people, work hard everyday, and always try to step outside your comfort zone.
Matter of fact, even if you follow these step thoroughly, in the end, it never happens. You’re still unsatisfied, you still want lots of things you don’t have, and you’re still fighting with your bad habits day after day, trying desperately to force yourself out of them.
I’ve been to conferences where people talked a lot about being brave and fighting your fears, and since we were in a foreign city, I have to admit I expected more from them than going everybody to the same comfortable restaurant and just talk with each other all day.
So, how do you free yourself from the pattern?
How do you manage to be always happy, healthy and succesful, even if applying all the rules to the letter is not working properly as it promises?
The key is a simple principle, which is called integrity.
If you have this down, you cannot physically mess it up, because your body will be so prepared for and used to real health, happiness, and success, that it will bring them to you automatically, even if you don’t ask.
So what is integrity?
Integrity is like saying you will not look at your friend’s phone when she leaves the room. Will you respect the promise? If yes, welcome to the game, player.
Integrity is all about respecting deals you’ve done with yourself. Always carrying on and acting on your choices, even if nobody could never find out you didn’t. For example, let’s assume you decided you have to work out because you want to feel lightier and healthier. Or maybe you want to improve your food choices. Or you want to begin a daily meditation practice. If you really do it everyday as you decided, life will flow smoothly, things will go exactly the way they’re supposed to and you will improve quickly.
But if you don’t, man that’s when bad things are born.
Probably you think that taking a quick peak to the girl’s phone won’t matter so much. She’ll never know anyway, right? This is very wrong. Even if she never finds out, which by the way is highly unlikely, your relationship with her, and with yourself, will be hopelessly ruined.
Integrity is the only thing you have to care about. Tricks and techniques, life hacks, hard work, and inspirational speeches could actually mess up your life more than they help.
So, why don’t we give maximum importance to our integrity?
The thing is, people make three big mistakes when they assume how the world fundamentally works.
They assume life is hard and you must suffer.
They assume other people cannot see through them, and that they can fake whatever they want.
They assume they are not very trustworthy and wise, and that they need some kind of guidance from the outside in order to know what’s really good for them and what isn’t.
First thing. Life is not hard, it is the easiest thing in the world. If you look at your life closely, I’m sure you’ll quickly notice how most of your troubles stem from you and yourself alone. Life is easy, and if you feel it is not you probably have to work more on your integrity.
Second. Other people are not stupid. They feel if you’re living up to your own expectations, or if you’re trying to cheat yourself and everyone around you, pretending it’s alright when it isn’t. If you feel life’s not easy and you need to work more on yourself, you’ll maybe feel tempted to pretend it’s alright. Don’t do it. Be honest with yourself and the wisest path will reveal to you as effortlessly as taking a walk.
And last. Why assuming you’re not wise enough to make you’re own decisions? You want to be a leader, right? So why you continue to search your truth outside yourself? Being interested, curious and informed are all good things, for sure. Clinging on other people’s ideas and beliefs without expressing your own, on the other hand, is a sign that, deep down, you don’t respect yourself very much. How can you be the leader of a pack, if you wouldn’t follow yourself in the first place?
You are the possesor of a human body, and the human body is naturally designed to give himself all he needs to feel good. The best ideas, the best choices, and the best thoughts are all already inside yourself. You just have to listen to them, respect them, and put them into practice.
Accept that life could be easier, that everyone knows where you’re at. And, most importantly, be your first follower.